The idea ‘Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?’ changed my life. I grew up with a father who HAD to be right: it was shout-y and exhausting. But because it was all I knew, I learned to do the same thing. Being ‘right’ is ‘I believe THIS and you’re WRONG’. Being ‘happy’ is ‘I believe this and you believe that and we can both be right’. One is reacting and one is responding. The past decade has seen huge polarisation, and in COVID-now, everyone is edgy and it’s easy to react. How can we be aware, avoid the pitfalls and relax a little?
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David James has worked as a theatre maker in New York, LA, London and Melbourne, currently leading BOOK Music & Lyrics, a professional development programme for musical theatre writers, composers, lyricists & directors. He began spiritual awareness joining Al-Anon in 1985, leading beginners’ sessions at the Manhattan Gay & Lesbian Community Centre. He later studied with Louise Hay, Bernie Siegel and Stephen Levine, and was a founding member of Cynthia O’Neil’s Friends In Deed. He attempts to learn and grow every day.